Saw it again just to make sure what you meant. It wasn't the "forced" for me, but deceit. First image: nice, kind, understanding, sincere
Second: possession, controlling
And the image sudden transition is what triggers the bad flashback
Yes to all in the second paragraph for the second image, just didn't know how to put it in writing.
My mistake was, expecting the best. There were indication in the 5yrs of dating, a slight aggression every now and then, sudden burst of jealousy over silly things, and many other things. And I thought saying yes, maybe... juuuust maybe, was going to change everything. It did.... for the worst. !0 yrs... gone. I'm shaking just typing this...
I can laugh at myself for being stupid and naive, but not yet for the rest. Just remembering it, gives me anxiety
What a sad sad bunch we are (smile)
I'm sorry that it happened to you too. =/
Of all the things to have common ground on, I wish it wasn't this... but hey, surely there's other things too, right? We'll find them as we get to know one another.
I just wish there was a DMing messaging system built into FS so we could when you were ready.
I mean, the only way I had out was the issue being... forced might be the best way to put it.
Second: possession, controlling
And the image sudden transition is what triggers the bad flashback
For others like us, it sadly isn't. It's a reminder.
For me it was absolute oppressive control, isolation and manipulation. Rampant psychotic jealousy.
My mistake not knowing what a healthy relationship was supposed to be, thinking this was normal while my entire life was whittled away from me.
I could go on, but there's no point. It's over now. I can even laugh about it a little... just a little.
My mistake was, expecting the best. There were indication in the 5yrs of dating, a slight aggression every now and then, sudden burst of jealousy over silly things, and many other things. And I thought saying yes, maybe... juuuust maybe, was going to change everything. It did.... for the worst. !0 yrs... gone. I'm shaking just typing this...
I can laugh at myself for being stupid and naive, but not yet for the rest. Just remembering it, gives me anxiety
What a sad sad bunch we are (smile)
Of all the things to have common ground on, I wish it wasn't this... but hey, surely there's other things too, right? We'll find them as we get to know one another.
I just wish there was a DMing messaging system built into FS so we could when you were ready.
In due time my dear smitty , in due time *huge huge smile*